What
Woman Wish Man Knew About Attract Woman
By
Christine
Akiteng
So many men struggle with
trying to figure out how to attract woman and find themselves running
around in frustrating circles. The problem is that women won't tell men
what they want, or maybe they tell them but being men they just don't
get it.
I’ll tell you the things women
want as they’ve been telling me for over 10 years. Some of the things
that have held them captivated and wildly attracted to the men who made
them laugh and cry and FEEL, as the intense attraction built very, very
slowly.
Think of this whole
progressive involvement as emotional and physical foreplay -- and even
if you are the one causing all these chain reactions, she’s doing more
of the self-seducing.
1. “Tease me, you devil.
Intrigue me. Get me to forget my stress and worries even if only for a
moment."
Women want men who can step
outside of their boxes and are daring enough to take them on. They want
men who can take them in, tease, intrigue, entice and make them
experience new thoughts and feelings they’d never experienced before or
thought they’d ever experience.
The purpose of teasing and
enticing her is to, well, to compel her to action using titillation.
There's an enormous difference between teasing for teasing's sake and a
slow attraction of the senses, both emotional and physical. A touch of
teasing that involves all of a woman’s senses dispels her nervousness
and can make an awkward moment less awkward. However, keep your teasers
short and sweet. Some examples of sweet and short teasers include:
“Don't be absurd", “You can’t do that!" or a whispered endearment,
"you're my weakness" or "you're strumming my heartstrings" etc.
Teasing as away of attracting
can also heighten the sexual tension unbelievably and build anticipation
when used to hint at an action without having to directly describe the
action. For example: “I can take you down the boat later and show you!''
Pique her curiosity, tantalize
her imagination, tap into her primal emotions until she can no longer
deny her attraction to you. It is a fact that when things are going
well, a woman’s temperature goes up.
2. “Tell me what you're up to.
What is this really all about?"
When it gets to this stage
most men go ahead and undo everything they’ve worked hard to achieve up
to this point by thinking “She’s having fun with me, so she must be
digging me. It’s time to seal the deal". Pull-ease!
Rushing things is the worst
thing a man can ever do. Moving with fast or speed attraction reveals
just how inexperienced, incapable and less self-confident you are.
Whatever you think in your mind a woman means whenever she says she
wants things to go slower, take what you think is slower and multiply it
by 10.
Now that you have the speed
thing right, go back to the emotions. It’s always the emotions. Use
words for the greatest emotional impact. For example: Instead of saying,
"I enjoy photography," talk about the thrill you get when you capture
that really great picture. If the conversation has crossed to the
“sexual", instead of saying "Oh, I love sex," talk about how you feel
when you are in the moment. Paint a clear emotional picture that allows
her to put herself in the centre of it. Make her see what you see, hear
what you hear, smell what you smell, and feel what you feel. You must
convey all these thoughts and feelings and impressions to her with your
word choices. Don’t be sleazy though, it gets kind of “yucky". It is all
too easy to fall into the trap of using very graphic language with the
emphasis on physical reaction rather than emotional reaction.
Take the time to breathe life
into your words through the use of strong emotion verbs with a sort of
“spiritual" or “heavenly" element to them. Words like: amazing,
marvelous, mind--blowing, wonderful, incredible, extraordinary,
unbelievable, fantastic, phenomenal, feel it in my spirit -- touch women
so deeply and holistically (mind, body, emotions, and spirit).
If you can get her heartbeat
accelerating, her stomach fluttering and her mind thinking "This
couldn't possibly get any better, could it?" or “Now you want me!" you
are half way there!
3. “Oh yeah? Prove that what
you've just said is true. Show me."
Women want to be attracted but
only so long as you deliver. By the time you progress to this level of
seduction, most women have a good sense of what you’re up to and can see
it coming, but at least they won't feel cheated.
Unfortunately this is the area
most men miserably fall short. They make huge promises, but do not
actually deliver. It’s just plain wrong, and insulting to raise
someone’s expectations so high only to give miserable tokens as the
reward for their wait.
Respect a women’s intelligence
and they’ll respect you for it. If you make them wait and they find out
that you are not delivering the payoff alluded to in the tease, they’ll
resent you for it. Nothing pisses off a woman more than a man who
doesn't deliver what he promised. Even if she doesn't say there's
something missing, she’s thinking it. That's the thing about everything
that touches on sexual emotions, even when it's great, there's still
room for improvement--if not for you, then, just possibly, for her.
4. “Help me remember you and
this moment. Nail it into my memory."
If you create a strong
beginning with strong feelings, and a strong middle with layers of
emotional depth, it only makes sense that the end be equally strong,
right?
If you want the experience to
stick out so that she doesn’t ever forget you, then do something that’ll
burn into her memory. The most effective way to create a memory that
will facilitate the consolidation of the attraction is to end from where
you began. attract, entice, tease, make her experience new thoughts and
feelings she’d never experienced before or thought she’d ever
experience. Who knows, you may even be able to start a whole new session
-- if you know what I mean.
Foreplay or afterplay -- to
women -- the difference is a matter of semantics. And the sooner men get
this, the better for everyone!