How Any
Men Can Use Body Language To Make Women Instantly Attracted To Him
By
Kurt Dight
You lock eyes.
This is the moment you either
win her attraction or start an uphill battle.
Women like men for a variety
of reasons. No where on there list is “being a complete wussy”. Not
handling the initial eye contact properly is a good way to get her to
think of you as a wuss.
Back to the scenario. Your
eyes are now locked. Can you maintain eye contact? What about your
posture... are you shoulders rigid or slumped? Are you fidgeting? Do you
feel awkward, or worry if others notice?
Hopefully not. Know this:
women are a lot better (up to 10 times better) at reading body language
than men are. Even if she isn't aware of some of the things listed above
at a conscious level... she picks up on them subconsciously. And her
attraction meter goes down.
If it dips down to far she'll
quickly decide you aren't worth her time.
However, women don't analyze
and logically conclude whether you're worth their time or not based on
your reaction to their eye contact. No. They do it by feeling. When you
first meet eyes, they get an instant feeling based on subconsciously
picking up your body language. This feeling causes them to respond
instantly, good or bad.
How do you ensure it's good?
Well, there is a thing called congruence. Women are not stupid. If you
respond to her eye contact favorably, she will get a good feeling. But
then if you stand their like a dolt, that feeling leaves. Your actions
haven't been congruent and you have been exposed.
Instead, after meeting her eye
contact work for congruence. Do this by immediately showing her you're
cool, powerful and confident. Say, “I couldn't help but notice that you
were... staring at me.”
If you say it properly, she
will likely laugh. You don't have to say the above word for word. What
you need to say is something that shows her you are every bit the cool,
confident (not wussy!) man that women desire.
Most men get scared of
situations like these. They find them challenging. I like to call them
opportunities. If you think of them negatively, you will go out of your
way to avoid them. You'll also become oblivious to them to avoid feeling
inadequate.
One of my students was having
a problem with eye contact with women. It got the point where he thought
no woman would even give him a glance. To prove my point I took him out
one night and was his “eye dog”.
You wouldn't believe how many
women would glance over his way that he was unaware of. In his mind he
felt afraid of locking eyes with a woman, because in the past he had
poorly handled such situations. Now he was sabotaging himself to avoid
those situations entirely by acting unaware of them.
Once I made him aware that women do look at him... and that
each experience was not a challenge at all... but an opportunity to get
better... He shortened his learning curve to one night. And left with a
date. Simply by using the line I gave you above and then striking up a
conversation.