Persuasion
Skills - Killer Seduction Techniques
By
Peter France
One of the questions I am most
often asked is:
“Do I have to be a handsome
movie star in order to attract women?”
Well, being amazingly
good-looking myself this has never really been a problem. OK. I’m
kidding – I’m no oil painting. So what do you do?
Not knowing how to strike up a
conversation is a very common problem. When you see an attractive woman
in a bar or out and about, how do you start things going? How do you
make a good start and make sure she thinks you're the best thing on the
planet?
Ask Questions. Let me repeat
that. Ask Questions.
Questions are the easiest way
to find out what your chosen person really wants to hear from you.
Questions can also induce emotional states in themselves. The question
is also an inoffensive way of suggesting things and you should never
underestimate the Power of suggestion.
So, how you can use questions
to your advantage?
Let’s imagine you've noticed a
woman in a bar, and she catches your eye. You catch her eye and keep the
eye contact just a tiny bit longer than normal and then drop your eyes
away, wait a few moments and then glance back.
Is she still looking at you?
If she is, Congratulations my friend, you are in business. Now it’s time
to begin your conversation and ask your first question, and in a casual
a manner as you can muster.
The first thing you need to do
is state a few facts. I suggest you say two or three irrefutable facts
before stating something which you want her to agree with (this is
called pacing and leading)
So as an example, you could
say:
“Hi! It's good to find a bar
that isn't too crowded, has decent music and has a nice vibe. Are you
having a good time tonight?
Make sure that every time you
say words like “nice” and “good” you point to yourself. Do it very
subtlely and she will subconsciously register you as a “nice” and “good”
thing.
She responds and says “Yes
it's okay”
Then you go on to say:
“Maybe you can help me with
something?” (now very few people will ever turn down a request for
help!)
She says, “Yes?”
You say:
“Well, it’s just that I can’t
help thinking that some people overlook you sometimes.”
She frowns. “What?” she says,
puzzled (now she’s curious)
You say:
“Well, you're clearly the most
attractive person in here. Yet nobody has bothered to come and talk to
you to find out whether you're a nice person too.” (As you say “most
attractive person” and “nice person” point to yourself again, very
subtly)
She laughs and says “You can
tell all that just by looking at me, can you?” She smiles broadly and
flicks her hair.
Bingo. You, my friend, are
pushing at an open door. All you now need to do is a little more
positive self referencing and you have got yourself a date.
Have fun and remember - only
create good things – always leave people happier than when you met them.